If It Ain't Broke...
Updated: Jun 15, 2020
Have you ever heard the term, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it?” I bet you have. As a matter of fact, I think there are a whole lot of men, fathers, who live their lives by this rule. You may think that as long as things are going relatively smoothly and not blowing up that it’s better just to let everything cruise along and to not “rock the boat.” But take a minute to think about your truck. What happens if you don’t maintain your truck? If you don’t change the oil, the truck will run less efficiently, and as time goes on, it can cause the engine components to warp and wear out. If the tires get worn out, they can become unsafe and not get the traction they should and could blow out and cause an accident. Whether it’s the fluids, filters, hoses, or belts, everything on the truck has the potential of wearing out and causing either danger or lower performance. Well, the same is true with your life.
Whether we are talking about your relationship with your partner, being a dad, your health, or your job skills, you need to be maintaining yourself to assure that you continue to perform at your best.
So, let’s look at a few ways you can work on self-maintenance to make sure that you and your family are growing together.
· Being Dad—A common myth is that you have to be having serious problems or be a “bad father” to need parenting tips or advice. The truth is that whether you and your partner are expecting your first child, or you’ve been a dad for decades, you need to continuously learn and grow. Dad’s groups, blogs, classes, books, etc. are all ways to learn to be a better dad. As a matter of fact, The Open door has a dad’s group and parenting classes.
· Relationships—Men and women are different, and relationships take work. You should never stop learning and endeavoring to improve your relationships. The Open Door just happens to offer relationship sessions.
· Your Health—Your family needs you to be as healthy as possible. This doesn’t mean that you need to be shredded like a superstar athlete. We know that none of us have any guarantees in life but taking care of your bodies and your health can help you live a good long life with your family.
· Your career—When I was a boy my father told me that no matter where I went to work to make every effort to make myself the most valuable person there; to learn how to do everything possible, to always be early, and to always work hard. This will not only benefit you with the pride and knowledge that you did good work, it will also help at raise time and that benefits you and your whole family.
No matter what area of life you look at, we can all benefit from growth and improvement. Sometimes that can happen just through experience, when you are intentional about seeking information or mentoring, it will always bring a benefit.
“A boy needs a father to show him how to be in the world. He needs to be given swagger, taught how to read a map so that he can recognize the roads that lead to life and the paths that lead to death, how to know what love requires, and where to find steel in the heart when life makes demands on us that are greater than we think we can endure.” –Ian Morgan Cron
“The relationship between a father and daughter is one of the most heart-warming and intense bonds, when a father is involved and dedicated to his daughter and treats his little princess with love and delicacy. Without a doubt, the father-daughter relationship has an inexplicable magic that is all its own. And there’s good reason. A father is the first man in his daughter’s life and is also an inspiring role model.” From an article on youaremom.com.